
Years ago, I was asked to attend a formal event across the country, immediately after I got long, individual braids.
My escort to the event asked me, “Would you please do me a favor and take those braids out your hair?”
The braids hadn’t been in my head two weeks, and they were so beautiful. But after much thought, I took them out.
I arrived to the event in New York with my shoulder-length, straightened ‘do, only to leave with a fro that would make Angela Davis proud. That’s when something hit me.
I realized that changing things about yourself—be it big or small—may make others happy, but their delight doesn’t outweigh your own happiness.